Myths About Raising Bilingual Children

Are you raising a child with more than onechildren. This requires the child to spend time in
language? Congratulations! You are giving yourthat language on a regular basis and you can
child a gift for life! But you will have probablyimagine the organisation it requires on the part of
come across a lot of questions and challenges asthe parents, so the effort is very high. Such a
well. I bet, you will have been confronted with atcommitment to languages naturally requires
least one or more of the below myths! Did youtrade-offs in other areas of life (e.g. sports, arts,
know it was a myth? Let's explore and then bustschool work etc) which most families I met are
them.not willing to make. In a nutshell, you can bring
As soon as you start to talk about raising bilingualyour child up with many languages but you need
children, you will find that everyone around youto commit to the effort it takes to keep them up
has a (different) opinion on it. Over time many ofover a long period of time.
these opinions and half-truths have developed intoMyth #3: Learn one language properly first.
myths which are stubbornly kicking aroundThe earlier you expose your child to all the
confusing and upsetting motivated parents timelanguages you want him/her to grow up with, the
and time again. Knowing what's true and what'sbetter. There are many advantages to early
false about raising bilingual children is vital toexposure and I will talk about it in detail in Step 3.
prepare you for any unfounded commentsSo waiting until your child speaks the first
well-meaning friends and family members will pass.language "properly", just wastes time and makes
Instead of letting those comments make youit harder for him/her. And what's more, I bet you
doubtful about your efforts and let you get offwouldn't be able to tell me when "properly" has
course, you will be able to confidently ignore thembeen achieved anyway. How many words,
or even educate them.grammar rules are equal to "properly"?
Answer the below questions to see what youMyth #4: Your child will only mix languages
currently believe to be true about bilingual children.Indeed, you can expect your child to temporarily
Just circle the number that most reflects howmix languages up to the age of 4, using the
much you agree with each of these statementsvocabulary that is most easily available. This is
(1 = don't agree at all, 5 = totally agree) Whenperfectly normal and nothing to worry about - as
you raise your child with more than one language.long as YOU don't mix languages. You are your
1. you must keep it to two languages or it will notchild's role model and you need to provide good
work ( 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 )language input. Have you heard about "garbage in
2. you will only confuse him/her( 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 )- garbage out", the same applies here. Assuming
3. your child's brain can get confused ( 1 - 2 - 3 -you don't mix languages and your toddler does,
4 - 5 )you can help your child and provide the right
4. make sure he/she learns one language properlyword(s) by repeating the sentence, e.g. in form of
first ( 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 )a question using the same correct vocabulary
5. you don't need to do much; he/she will pick ityour child was using - more about this technique
up in no time ( 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 )later.
6. your child will always mix languages ( 1 - 2 - 3 -Myth #5: You don't need to do anything; your
4 - 5 )child will pick the language up in no time.
7. your child will do worse in school ( 1 - 2 - 3 - 4While it is true that kids generally pick up
- 5 )languages fast, successful bilingualism doesn't just
Myth #1: You only confuse your child.happen. You probably wouldn't have started
Research has proven that your child will in no wayreading this book if you believed otherwise. There
be confused by growing up with several languagesare circumstances which facilitate your children's
per se. Our brain is able to handle many languagesbilingualism more than others and in the right
and stores them in different places. Whileenvironment it might feel like you aren't doing
languages heard consistently in the first year areanything to contribute to your children's language
stored in a pre-designed area in the leftjourney. To understand those circumstances you
hemisphere of the brain, all later languages arewill still at least need to inform yourself (by
stored in the right hemisphere.reading Step 2 of this book). Doing nothing leaves
Having said that, it is absolutely possible that YOUyour children's bilingualism up to chance.
confuse your child by changing languages andMyth #6: Stop bilingualism if your pediatrician tells
language strategies (see Step 7) or by mixingyou to.
languages. With the right knowledge and aSometimes families have stopped raising their
consistent strategy you never need to worrychildren with more than one language because
about confusing your child.their pediatrician told them it would be better for
Myth #2: "More than 2 languages" does not work.their child's speech development, stuttering
When you consider that we only ever use 5% ofproblem, dyslexia etc. Most developmental issues
our brain, you immediately realise that our brainare NOT related to bilingualism, numerous studies
has ample space and capacity for languagehave proven the point. So, before you drop a
learning. While bilingual children are the mostlanguage, ask a specialist and get a second opinion.
common, research has proven up to 4 languagesMyth #7: Bilingual children do worse in school.
to work without any problem. 4 languagesBrowsing through the research studies that have
typically occur in a family with parents withbeen done on the topic you will find that they
different native languages, an environmenteither conclude that bilingual children do just as well
country that provides a third and a school thatas monolinguals or in fact, they show that
provides a fourth languages. Among my parentbilinguals are doing better in school. Don't let
network members I have parents who areanyone tell you otherwise unless they have data
successfully managing 6 languages for theirto prove it.