| Most marriages start at a marriage altar with | | | | looked at the situation from this angle you will be |
| vows to each other to love and to hold in | | | | able to see the behaviors and attitudes you need |
| sickness and in health, for richer or poorer and | | | | to change. |
| etc. Yes there were good intentions to simply | | | | 3. After a couple of weeks without any contact, |
| love and grow old together. Too many marriages | | | | make a call and ask the partner to meet with |
| in just a short amount of time end with tears of | | | | you. It is hoped that they too have missed you |
| bitterness with the couple going separate ways. | | | | as well and will say yes. It is imperative that once |
| Frequently soon after the split up one of the | | | | the meeting is scheduled that you do not revert |
| partners comes to the realization separation is not | | | | back to a negative, blaming and accusatory |
| what they actually wanted. But now can they | | | | attitude. Be careful of your conversation and |
| become a couple again. Is it even possible to save | | | | body language. Most problems really do begin with |
| the marriage when the couple is not even | | | | communication difficulties. Being able to maintain |
| together? | | | | positive communication and communication |
| There is no promise of winning back your partner | | | | behaviors at this first meeting is a must. |
| after the split up but there are some suggestions | | | | 4. Remaining calm during the meeting will allow |
| that might help. It is worth a try. | | | | you to communicate in an effective manner what |
| 1. If the partner has moved out of the home do | | | | you have to say. First acknowledge your |
| not try to contact them when you are upset. | | | | mistakes and your part of the problem sharing |
| 2. Spend some time reflecting within yourself of | | | | that you are willing to make the corrections |
| what the problems and troubles in the marriage | | | | necessary to give the relationship a chance. Let |
| really are. Put aside blame as it will only hold you | | | | them know how much they have been missed |
| back from seeing the big picture of the | | | | and that you would really like to be together |
| relationship objectively. Remember a marriage or | | | | again. Your partner has had the same time you |
| partnership is not a relationship with one person. It | | | | have had to reflect upon the relationship and |
| takes two for a marriage or partnership. It also | | | | consider their own part in the problems and |
| takes two to make a relationship work or to | | | | troubles. Hopefully they will be willing to |
| break a relationship. Look intently at your role in | | | | acknowledge their part of the problems. If there |
| the marriage and recognize the part you played in | | | | is still love between both partners there is hope |
| the marriage especially in regard to the problem | | | | the marriage can be saved after a split up. |
| and how you handled it. When you have sincerely | | | | |