| Here are 7 steps to marriage reconciliation that | | | | us vs. the problem. By doing so, you will avoid the |
| will prayerfully put you and your spouse back on | | | | blame game. |
| the right track. | | | | 4. Learn from the Past - Use your marriage |
| 1. Swallow Your Pride - The Bible says, pride | | | | mistakes as a springboard to propel your |
| comes before the fall. That means pride will | | | | relationship to a higher level. If you learn from |
| always lead to your destruction. In this case, the | | | | your mistakes, you are less likely to repeat them. |
| destruction of your marriage. So take a long hard | | | | 5. Leave the Past in the Past - In other words, let |
| look at yourself. That's right. Even if you believe | | | | go and move forward. Don't remind your spouse |
| your partner is the blame for the breakdown of | | | | of what s/he did or how things use to be. If you |
| your marriage. Examine yourself to see what you | | | | really want reconciliation you've got to let go of |
| could have done differently. Now accept | | | | the past. |
| responsibility for your actions and be willing to | | | | 6. Be Patient - Your marriage did not fall apart |
| admit your mistakes. | | | | over night and therefore cannot be repaired over |
| 2. Forgive - Once you've swallowed pride, you | | | | night. Rebuilding your marriage is a process that |
| should ask for forgiveness and then extend | | | | will take a lot of patience and determination from |
| forgiveness to your spouse for their offenses | | | | you. |
| against you. Remember, neither of you are | | | | 7. Get Godly Counsel - Don't seek ungodly or |
| perfect. Therefore forgiveness must always be a | | | | unqualified counsel from friends and peers. As a |
| two way street. | | | | child of God, you should only accept counsel from |
| 3. Stop Blaming - Don't waste time pointing fingers | | | | fellow believers who are spiritually mature. If you |
| at each other. This sort of behavior is | | | | don't have such a group of people surrounding |
| unproductive. Instead of approaching your | | | | you. Or, if you feel like you're in over your head, |
| conversations from the standpoint of me vs. you, | | | | have the courage to get professional guidance for |
| approach your discussions from the standpoint of | | | | marriage reconciliation. |